So many people today are struggling to free themselves from negative thoughts about their body. We know it can make a huge difference in our quality of life when we’re able to have a positive body image, but we often get stuck, because we believe that we need to change how we look before we can like ourselves. We can spend years punishing our body for not being perfect, without ever reaching a place where we truly feel lovable. What if there was a better way to fall in love with our body – one that doesn’t require us to change anything about ourselves, but can actually help us to experience the transformation we’ve been looking for? In this inspiring new video from IPEtv, Marc David, Founder of the Institute for the Psychology of Eating, shares powerful new tools from Dynamic Eating Psychology that will enable you to permanently shift your body image for the better. If you’ve ever wished you could end the cycle of body hate and finally appreciate your unique beauty, you won’t want to miss this video!
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Here is a transcript of this week’s video:
Greetings, friends. I’m Marc David, founder of the Institute for the Psychology of Eating. Let’s talk about a body image secret.
Here’s the thing. This whole body image thing, as you know, is huge for us humans. We have, for some strange reason, this hard time loving on our own body. And you know when you don’t love your body, life isn’t good. And when we don’t love on the body, we think that in order to love ourselves and love the body, we have to change the body. So we put all our energy into dieting and exercise and forced calorie restriction and intense exercise so we can change the body so then we can feel good about ourselves.
But let’s take a step back for a second. And I want to offer to you kind of a formula. Maybe it’s more like a principle or a guideline, to me, that can be very eye opening when it comes to having a consistent, good vibe about your body.
Here’s the formula: you look as good as you feel. Right? You look as good as you feel. Think of any day when you woke up feeling good. When you wake up feeling good, for whatever bizarre reason, and you look in the mirror, if you feel good, you look good. Think of the days when you get up, “Ugh, life is a drag. It’s tough. I don’t want to be here. I really don’t want to be alive. But I have to do my life.” And you look in the mirror; you don’t look as good. It’s true.
So the question is, what do we do about that? How can we use that? Here’s what you do. You have to remember that we have a say in what we feel.
We have a say in the emotions that we generate in ourselves.
So how can you feel better?
Instead of wasting your time going, “Okay, in order for me to feel better, I have to completely reshape my body, re-sculpt it, carve off the fat, do this, do that, do all this impossible nonsense that takes forever…” You could be dieting for a life and trying to sculpt your body for a life. I’m not saying that that’s bad. But it doesn’t always get us where we want to go.
What makes you feel good? Do you need to communicate with someone? Do you need to have more love in your life? Do you need to get out in nature? Do you need to play more? Do you need to speak to your partner? Do you need to change the work that you do in the world? What is it on a bigger level, on a deeper level that you need to do to feel better?
How about even on a small level, the little things that you do for yourself in the morning? The little things. Make the cup of tea, how you make yourself up in the morning, how you speak to yourself when you look in the mirror. When you start to generate within your own system good feelings, you start to look good.
And when you generate those good feelings and you start to look good, then you want to do more good things for yourself. And it becomes circular. And whatever challenges you have with food and body like binge eating and overeating and endless dieting, they naturally begin to heal themselves.
And that, my friends, is the magic of life.
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