Chances are if you could figure out a way to help people truly control their appetites you would likely be awarded sainthood, along with a really nice big retirement fund. I must admit, I’m fascinated by how we relate with this thing called “my appetite.” My guess is that if you’re the kind of person who wants to lose weight, you’re also the kind of person who wants to control your appetite. You want to manage it, own it, and make it your servant. And yet, with all the books out there written by the experts that tell you how to tame the appetite beast – many of us are still left cowering in the corner whenever our appetite comes to town. It’s time to get smart and tough. It’s time to say goodbye to all the useless appetite-controlling pills and all the failed attempts at using willpower to defeat the dreaded appetite enemy. Here’s the first 4 of my 8 unique and surefire ways on how to control your appetite. The next 4 will arrive in your inbox next week. These are well kept secrets so please don’t tell anyone.
1 – Get Out of Your Head – It’s Crazy in There Anyways.
It seems that we really worship the head. We live in it, we exalt it, and it’s always turned on and entertaining itself with an endless supply of inane thoughts. Okay, I agree, the brain is a really cool organ. But if we pitch our tent there and inhabit it long-term, the body suffers. More to the point, the more we eat with our head the less input we have from the brilliance of the body. It’s not your mouth that hungers for food, it’s the body that requires food. It follows then, that it’s not the mouth that tells you when you’re full – it’s the body that gives us this all important signal. If you wish to stop overeating, feel your body. Notice its sensations, feel its fullness, talk to its emptiness, and invite to the table. When you eat, eat with all of you. Eat with every cell. Get out of your head. Stop fantasizing. Slow down your mind chatter. Notice what you’re eating. Taste it. Enjoy it. Rub the food all over your body, but from the inside.
2- Suck the Marrow Out of Your Food.
Let’s be honest for a moment. Do you really eat when you eat? Are you present? Are you there? Are you enjoying the heck out of the food you claim to really love? If you really truly love food, suck the life out of it. Get what you want. Pleasure yourself. Indulge. One of the reasons we consistently overeat is because we don’t get what we want in the 1st place. At the most primitive level of the central nervous system we are programmed to seek pleasure and avoid pain. If we don’t get the pleasure that we seek from food – even when were eating it – the urge of the primitive brain remains unfulfilled and our physiology literally compels us to eat more. The more that you get what you want, the less needy you’ll be. When we reward ourselves with the pleasure of food the body rewards us with a satisfied appetite. Stop holding back.
3 – Stop Fighting Yourself – It Looks Silly and You Can’t Win.
One of the reasons that it’s so difficult to control our appetite is because it cannot be controlled. Your fighting a battle that’s impossible to win. Appetite is not designed to be controlled. In fact, it exists to regulate and control us. It reminds us that we’re mortal, and that we need to eat. Some of us get so distracted by e-mails and iPhones that if we didn’t have an appetite we’d forget to eat, and starve. How embarrassing would that be? So the wisdom of the universe has been very kind and gifted us with the beautiful urge to eat. Imagine if you called a cease-fire and no longer looked upon appetite as your enemy. Imagine if you didn’t do battle with the inborn urge to munch. You’d be free. You’d be happy. Your appetite would finally come out to play, it would naturally self regulate, and the war would be over. It’s time to wave the white flag.
4 – How to Control Your Appetite Tip – Eat Everything.
How’s that for an appetite-suppressing secret? Eat everything. All of it. Everything in sight. But wait one moment please. I guess I should explain further before you do this and gain a bunch of weight, and sue me for eating psychology malpractice. So yes, I really do want you to eat everything. And by everything I mean all of your life. Life itself is your proper meal. The more present we are to everything on our plate, the more we digest and assimilate all the moments and magic and opportunities that life gives us each day. We become “full” on life. And the less we need to rely on mere food to satisfy our hunger for a fabulous life. I mean it. Appetite finds its rightful natural place when we agree to fully indulge in the life that we’re given. The more we sit around waiting for the life we think we’re meant to have, the hungrier we become. And that hunger twists and distorts itself into a strange urge for food. Yes you’re hungry. But you’re hungry for a meal that’s bigger than any you could have imagined. Dinner is served – and it’s your life that’s on the plate. Eat it and enjoy.
How has trying to control your appetite distracted you from going after what you’re really hungry for?
My warmest regards,
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Founder of the Institute for the Psychology of Eating