Deepening Into Healing

Of all the important tools and tricks and deeper understandings I have ever learned about psychology and the human experience, the all important nugget of wisdom that I never saw in any textbook was this:

We are profoundly sensitive and fragile.

And perhaps way more so than we’d like to imagine, or could ever publicly admit. As I’ve worked in the fields of weight loss, body image, and nutritional health over the last 3 decades, I’ve been humbled by how our early experiences of betrayal, hurt, emotional pains from childhood, sexual abuse, and the challenges of being alive on planet Earth can profoundly impact us. In particular, the pains and stresses of life can drive us into unwanted behaviors around food, a lingering hatred of the body, and all manner of physical symptoms that the health professions treat as a medical issue, but are indeed, soul issues.

For centuries, our greatest religious and philosophical thinkers have noted that we exist in a constant struggle between the forces of light and dark, consciousness and unconsciousness. Despite our very best intentions, we often war on our own body and being. If your friends spoke to you the way you silently speak to and criticize yourself, they wouldn’t be your friends. Self-love is a far greater struggle than most of us could have imagined.

Christmas time, Hanukah time, is the point during our year when the days are getting darker. Symbolically, we can tap into the darkness, the hidden, the territory within that we often fear and avoid. We have the opportunity to touch places inside us that we have kept protected, simply because of fear.

On Christmas day – the winter solstice, the daylight grows longer once again, the light literally overtakes the darkness.

And this is where the true gift giving takes place. Going into our depths is a gift. Sourcing our truest self, our creative power, the unexpressed words, truths, desires, and dreams is where the action is. Despite what the world often tells us, we came to planet Earth for a reason. We have a gift to offer, and at our deepest core, it’s a gift we must give in order to be whole and complete. Life is beckoning us step forward and shine.

So if you look in the mirror and judge your body, if you fight food, if you scatter your life force trying to create the perfect weight or the perfect diet or achieving perfect health, it’s time to give it up. Every moment spent in self-judgment or a quest for impossible perfection is a missed opportunity to gift the world with your light, your presence, and your love.

What kinds of thoughts about your body keep you stuck?

Marc David

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  • Michele

    That was so beautiful.

    • Lindsay Young

      Thank you, Michele —

      Lindsay here at IPE.

      So glad you enjoyed the post.

  • Michaela

    I’m new to this blog but I love it so much that I’m going back through all your old articles and taking a read. This one is just a treasure! Such beautiful words x

    • Hi Michaela,
      Welcome!
      We’re glad to have you here. So glad you’re enjoying what we have to share.

      Best,
      Marc

About The Author
Marc David
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Marc David is the Founder of the Institute for the Psychology of Eating, a leading visionary, teacher and consultant in Nutritional Psychology, and the author of the classic and best-selling works Nourishing Wisdom and The Slow Down Diet. His work has been featured on CNN, NBC and numerous media outlets. His books have been translated into over 10 languages, and his approach appeals to a wide audience of eaters who are looking for fresh, inspiring and innovative messages about food, body and soul. He lectures internationally, and has held senior consulting positions at Canyon Ranch Resorts, the Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, the Johnson & Johnson Corporation, and the Disney Company. Marc is also the co-founder of the Institute for Conscious Sexuality and Relationship.